Are you not having a good day? We all falter sometimes! All it takes is a little unexpected criticism or someone just treating us harshly to trigger us into a spiral of negative self-talk and anxiety.
When you need to remind yourself of your worth, it’s good to have some ideas in mind. Try these quick tips for getting yourself back on track, even when life seems out of control!
Go into a Judgement-Free Zone
OK, so your thoughts aren’t what you wish they were. You know you’re in a depressive cycle. Your emotions are all over the place. You already know you’re not supposed to be reacting this way. So, to make your awful day a little bit worse, you start beating yourself up for how you’re treating yourself. This is entirely the wrong approach. Your first step must be to stop the negative spiral. Drop the judgment. Accept that you’re having a bad day. This moment doesn’t have to define you. Just let it go.
Drop the ‘Should’
Why are you caught up thinking about ‘should’ anyway? The moment you start using this devilish little word, you’re telling yourself what a failure you are. You have gotten caught up in a vortex of perfectionism; you can’t possibly escape. ‘Should’ never helps anybody. Erase it from your vocabulary.
Stop Looking for “rubber stamp” Validation
Anytime you think someone else can give you what you need to feel good about yourself, you’re going to be disappointed. People will let you down. Even in the best relationship, it’s not healthy to use someone else to define who you are. This kind of thinking can be dangerous. What if the person you relied upon was no longer in your life? How would this then impact your self-worth?
Come to Terms with the Past
It’s time to separate your actions from yourself. When you make a mistake, acknowledge the error and move on. To get caught up in shame or guilt only hurts you in the long run. There is nothing to be gained by victimizing yourself. Forgive yourself and move on.
Know Where You Excel
For a super-quick fix to your self-worth, take a moment to list off the things in which you excel. Acknowledge your accomplishments. A close examination of all the things which make you proud should give you a solid reminder you are indeed worthy.
Paying attention to these five areas can quickly restore your self-worth. The key is to be alert and make moves immediately to head off negative thoughts as soon as you become aware of them. Otherwise, they could undo all the hard work you’ve already put into yourself and your many successes!
